How to create a real space.

I wish I could create an application that serves up social experiences right to your doorstep; sort of like how UberEats brings food to your doorstep; that app would definitely make me a millionaire. Or maybe I could manufacture a tool that would force people to sit down and talk with friends and family. Hmmm . . . How about if I created a reflection app that would hijack your brain so you would only be able to contemplate ways to make your mother a little bit happier today. Dang, nope, none of these apps seem viable, and even if they were, I wouldn’t do it.

Why? Because you would be accepting an arrangement that would ultimately lead to the externalization of your humanity and innermost being.

The current “Social Media” tech tycoons give you what could be known as social fast food. This endless feed of social media content affects us in the same way that ultra processed food-like products impact our physical health. Only this time it is our mental health, not our physical health, dealing with a serious epidemic of obesity and passivity. My purpose in creating Realspace wasn’t to degrade the already beaten up human soul. Nor to create an app called “SocialEats” serving endless social-like content to your front door; but to give much needed space, to recover the lost art of being social. My goal was to make an app that focuses your attention towards finding real social activities and away from self-entertainment activities parading as social interaction. If you only need my application for seven minutes a day then I did my job.

So how does one find a real space?

First you need to remove outside noise. Turn off your phone. Then take stock of where you are and who you are with. This act alone will force your brain to start using that insanely powerful default network; also called the social cognition by Matthew Lieberman. If you are with no one, thats okay, the real space is already created. Now its time to realize whats in front of you or go for an awe walk.